By Madelynn Duvenhage
The following words are not our own but that of a little sister who just lost her brother. Her friend. Our deepest condolences to the Duvenhage family and all of Ivan’s friends and fellow DJ’s.
A truly great DJ, just for the moment, can make a whole room fall in love. Because DJ-ing is not about choosing a few tunes, it is about generating shared moods. It is about understanding the feelings of a group of people and directing them to a better place. In a hands of a master, records create rituals of spiritual communion that can be the most powerful events in people’s lives.
Daar is geen woorde wat my hartseer kan beskryf nie. Jy was te vinnig van ons af geneem en verseker onregverdig ook! Jou lewe was soveel meer werd as die DÍNG.
Ivan-Lloyd, my heart aches terribly and you definitely left a big footprint in my heart and most definitely my soul. Unfortunately, nothing can bring you back, nor erase how I had seen you in your final moments and after, but I have a million and one memories with you to look back on and cherish.
I am sorry for the last few minutes I had spent with you, as I could have treated you better and said goodbye properly. Time is no fool, nor something to mess with and it will come in unexpectedly and take who it wanted when it needs it.
If I could laugh with you one more time, I’d get tummy aches. If I could cry with you one more time, I’d have swollen eyes for days. If I could hear your voice one more time, I would have found my favourite sound and if I could hug you one last time I’d never let you go.
You ate, slept, raved and repeated in the best way possible you knew how through your music. Through your music you touched many a soul, maybe even more than once. You moved in such a way, and you spoke in such a way, that all the joy, love and peace of the world could be seen through that.
I am sure you were a great mentor to those around you just as you had many great mentors who taught you. Many, many things could have been learned from you, and you had just as many things to teach everyone around you.
You had many difficult times in your life Ivan, and none of them was easy but through them all, you stood strong. It is not about how many times you fell down, but about how many times you stood up, stronger and moving forward.
If you ever felt like you failed anyone, I’ll stop you right there. Because you were the best you, you could be. You were an amazing person, simply imperfectly perfect! You never gave up, not even now that you are gone. It simply means that you fought your battle till the end, and now it was time to hand over the battle and let Him fight it for you.
Now, I don’t have a brother who can tease me, be crazy with me, laugh with me and whatever else it may have been that we did together. I have no brother left to look our for me, not protect me, and that effing sucks!
You were the best brother I could have ever wished for and my best friend. My time with you is irreplaceable and I cherish every single moment with you.
My dearest brother, nothing can change what had happened. But just know that you were truly respected, cherished loved and most surely will be missed.
When words fail, music speaks, and you sang like an angel my dear brother.
I miss you Boetie. I love you endlessly Ivan.
Your loving Sister.